All right, rather than beat around the bush, I’m just going to come out and say it – last month, I was dumped.
Dumped. It’s such a harsh word, but it seems fitting. When you’ve been in a relationship for a year and a half and your boyfriend suddenly tells you that things aren’t the same, and he wants to "take a break," it certainly feels like a weight of sadness and regret has been "dumped" upon your heart.
Over the past month, I’ve been somewhat in denial about the break-up. This is partially because of the "taking a break" status he and I agreed on. Too bad we didn’t clarify exactly what that meant. To me, it meant spending winter break a part in order to give each other space, but knowing that when we returned to school in January, there would be a good chance of us getting back together. I was wrong. To him, it means we’re broken up and maybe someday later in life, we’ll get back together. Maybe.
And now, it’s time for me to move on. I’ve been in relationships before, but I’ve never had such a hard time letting go.
For now, my plan is to focus on my new years resolutions (I’ve already had to amend one of them!) and spend time reconnecting with myself. Letting go is definitely going to be tough, but I know I won’t get anywhere if I continue to dwell on what could have been.
How do you deal with a break-up?
Hey, in our world there is nothing wrong with being a "cheap date." You just want to spend time with your crush, and that shouldn't cost a fortune. Check out this original date, and come back each week for a new idea for you and your sweetie.
A Walk With a Purpose
It's the perfect excuse for lots of face time with your date. Try a local hike that ends with a great view. Invite your date to go on a long walk with you and your dog. Walk along the beach looking for shells that would make great jewelry. Now is the time to walk around a neighborhood known for its festive display of holiday lights. The reasons to walk never end — just get out there, and see what conversations follow.
This cheap date idea came from peoplejam.com.
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Sledding
Many Americans have snow during the winter. If you don't, never fear! A grassy hill and a piece of cardboard can be just as fun! Don’t have a sled? Grab a tray from a cafeteria (you'll give it back!), or grease up the bottom of a cookie sheet. Race each other to the top of the hill and down. Try to fit the two of you on a saucer. Once you've had your fill of the snow, retire to a local coffee shop or to your house for some hot cocoa.
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Make Cookies
Baking is not just for girlie girls — you and your guy in the kitchen with all that sugar is sure to be a sweet time. Don't forget to give him a taste of the batter off your finger, and to add a bit of edge to the night, pop in a scary movie while your cookies cool off.
What are the motivations for working out? In a recent conversation with a co-worker, we started discussing why guys and girls work out. He was convinced that it is purely superficial and for appearance’s sake on both sides of the sexes. That being said, he was just doing push-ups in the back room.
Being someone who runs about three times a week and does a short arm and ab workout, I argued back with him, saying that working out isn't just for appearance sake. I told him it was my stress reliever and generally makes me feel good about myself on the whole.
"You're wrong," he contended as he went to finish up a second set of push-ups. This poses an interesting question: Are guys really just working out for us girls?
Does it really matter if they have huge biceps and powerful pecs? Many at the gym claim that they work out to be stronger, so that when the time comes to lift a couch or throw a punch, they are ready.
However, how often is one lifting a couch or getting in fights? Maybe they are just doing curls for girls. After all, what do you find more appealing? A guy with a good build or a skinnier, leaner guy?
Just as there is pressure for girls to be thin and lean, there is pressure for guys to be muscular and built. So are we all working out for the right reasons...to be healthier and live longer? Or is it really for a flat stomach and a tight butt?
What do you think? Why do you work out?
xoxo,
Divya
P.S. He's beginning his third set of push-ups now.
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Psychic Connection
Have your palms or Tarot cards read together. Not only will you be able to giggle at the trippy hippie vibe afterward, but you might just find that you two are cosmically connected.
Make Your Relationship Facebook Official
We practically live our lives through Facebook. We post photos from last weekend's big party, and wish our friends "Happy Birthday" on their walls. And naturally, when you meet that special someone, you probably want to share your love with the virtual world.
So how should you go about making your relationship Facebook official?
Be cool about it - If you and your boyfriend haven't made your relationship Facebook official yet, it's ok. A lot of guys think it is cheesy to put their relationship status on Facebook. Just be sure it's not something you pressure him into doing. If you are too pushy about confirming your relationship on the Web, he might think that you are more interested in what other people think, instead of what he thinks.
Don't ambush your new guy with a relationship request - Think about it, if some guy you just started dating asked you to be his girlfriend through a surprise Facebook request, it might be a tad awkward. Make sure you and your guy have already made your commitment to each other official in person, before doing it online. Once you both have done that, it's up to the two of you to make it official on Facebook.
Avoid serial Facebook relationship syndrome - Trust me, it's worse than a computer virus! Putting up all of your latest flings on your relationship status, might give people the wrong impression about you. Remember, your friends can see what you are doing in your news feed. Unless you are comfortable about having all of your personal life out in the open, you might want to save the Facebook label for something that is more than a hookup!
Note: There are plenty of happy couples out there who DON'T put their relationship on Facebook. (Oh the horror!) It may not be the trendy thing to do, but keeping a relationship on the DL can keep a things a lot less complicated. Besides, do you really need to have the whole world knowing your business?
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Night-In
Feeling a little lazy? Head to your local movie rental store and pick out a season of a show you always wanted to see. Put on your comfy clothes and get ready to veg out on the couch for hours with your guy. Can we say cuddle session?
Is your guy prone to jealousy? Does he question your every move? If so, here's how to tame your "green-eyed" beau.
When jealousy rears its ugly head, it's pretty difficult to get it to disappear again! But with our tried and tested tips, you should be able to get your relationship back on the trusting track.
Tip #1 Ego-booster
All male egos need reassurance once in a while. Come to think of, ALL egos need the same attention! Remind him that he is the one you want to be with and all other guys in your life are just friends. As frustrating as it may be to remind him how you feel, everyone needs a little reminder from time to time. Jealousy stems from insecurity so he's probably just feeling a little self-conscious about where he stands with you at the moment.
Tip #2 Mirror Mirror
Show him his own reflection. And no, we don't mean put a mirror in front of him and tell him how gorgeous he's looking! Tell him how he is acting and how his actions are making you feel. Hopefully this soft-core approach will help the two of you talk things over and resolve the situation. If this soft approach doesn't work on your guy, the more hard-core approach would be to play him at his own game. Let's see how he feels when you go insane every time he looks at another girl, talks to another girl or generally breathes in the vicinity of another human being!Tip #3 Glass Houses
You know how the saying goes — "People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones?" Well it applies in this situation. If you're the jealous type who throws a fit when he's merely talking to another girl, how do you expect him to be different? If you can change your attitude and try to tame your jealous monster, he may do the same. Lead by example.
If you try these tips and the bf is still a shade of green, there's only one thing left to do — ditch him! There are plenty of guys out there who are confident in themselves and don't care who you're friends with! And while you're at it, can you get us one too?
Looking to surprise your sweetie? Try these creative kisses and check back for a new way to kiss each and every day.
THE LADY AND THE TRAMP KISS
Who doesn't remember when our favorite cartoon pooches shared their first on-screen smooch? While eating spaghetti together, purposely choose the same spaghetti piece from opposite ends. Slowly slurp the piece simultaneously from both sides so that the two of your just have to lock lips.
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THE SHOULDER KISS
Embrace your guy from behind by wrapping your arms around his torso. Rock with him back and forth for a minute and then kiss his shoulder lightly for a sweet surprise. He'll be sure to turn around and kiss you back!
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THE NOSE KISS
While hanging out together on the couch, get close to your guy's face by rubbing your nose gently on his. Then when he least expects it, give him a quick and tender peck on the nose just to show that you care.
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THE "I MISSED YOU SO MUCH" KISS
Spent a summer or winter break away from your sweetie? Run into each other's arms after a long time apart and passionately embrace. Then with your arms around his neck, plant a firm kiss on his lips for about 5 seconds. Works well even if our "long time apart" is really only a couple of hours.
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THE ICE CUBE KISS
On on a hot day, pass an ice cube back and forth between the two of you. The ice is sure to send a chill down both of your backs, but it will only give you more of a reason to cuddle closer.
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THE CLOSED EYE KISS
When he is sleeping, kiss him lightly on the eyelids to wake him up. He'll feel as though he woke up from the best dream ever.
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